Swingers Guide

What is "Swinging"?
Put in its simplest form, "swinging" is enjoying consensual sexual experiences with people other than your regular partner. Most people, who swing and are part of a couple, do so with the full knowledge, consent and, usually the participation of, their partner. Within this, however, there is a broad spectrum of activities. For some, swinging forms a big part of their life, for others it is an occasional "treat". Some people enjoy a wide variety of swinging partners; others form longstanding relationships with one couple. For some, swingers "anything goes", while others confine themselves to limited experiences that they enjoy, for example girls exploring their bisexuality together whilst the partners simply watch.
 

Is Swinging for me?
There are millions of people who enjoy the lifestyle and find that it enhances their sex lives with their partners. Swinging can add variety, excitement, allow you to explore other sides of your sexuality, be a way of meeting new and interesting people, provide inspiration for your fantasies and give you and your partner fabulous experiences on which you can draw in your private sex life together.

If you have a solid relationship and you are both keen to try new things with sexy new playmates, then swinging may well be for you. Do explore the issues that might arise with your partner before rushing in. For example, is your self-esteem high enough to avoid destructive feelings of jealousy if your partner is openly attracted to, and maybe making love with, another attractive person? Would you be willing to call a halt to something that was making your partner feel uncomfortable? Finally, keep open the lines of communication with your partner as you experience new things to ensure that you are both happy about the way things are going.

How do I meet people to swing with?
There are many different ways of meeting potential swinging partners and people's approaches vary. One of the most popular is to place an advertisement on a specialist site on the Internet such as Altsex4fun (see "What about placing an ad in the Personals?" below). You can also advertise in newspapers and specialist magazines. There are also various social events, swinging parties and swinging clubs (organised privately or as a business) and these are advertised by specialist websites and magazines. A potential downside to this route is that some people feel intimidated by walking into a group of strangers and you might find it helpful to get to know some people first. Make sure you know what to expect from an event. They range from purely social occasions (such as these Altsex4fun "Socials") to full-on action parties. Be reassured though that, in swinging circles, the etiquette that "no means no" is widely adhered to and it is very unlikely that someone will try to pressure you into doing anything with which you are not comfortable.

You will find mainly established male/female couples on the swinging scene, although, in a few cases, a person will have a "regular" partner and a different swinging partner. It is more common to find couples comprising a straight guy and a bisexual girl than a totally bisexual or heterosexual couple. There are quite a few single men looking for group experiences and fewer single girls. You may also find two or more couples with a regular swinging relationship who are looking for others to join in.

What about placing an ad in the Personals?

Placing an ad (or replying to one) in a specialist Personals area of a website like Altsex4fun.com can be a very useful way to meet people who might interest you as potential swinging partners. In general, the more information you can give about yourselves, the more likely you are to get replies from people who suit you.

Suggested topics for inclusion in your personal ad are: your ages and physical descriptions; if you are a couple, your relationship with each other; where you are located; the distance you are willing to travel and/or whether you could accommodate potential swinging partners; your sexual orientation; your level of swinging experience; and, critically, what sort of experiences are you looking for and what you do not want . The ubiquitous "sexy fun" is so vague that it is not particularly helpful.

Many people find it very useful to include a photograph of each person advertising. This has the following advantages: you are likely to get more people looking at your ad; the replies you get are likely to be more similar to you in standard of looks; and you are then in a better position to ask for photographs in return from those responding to your advertisement. You may find that posting and requesting normal, clothed pictures in regular situations work best.

One of the downsides of placing a personal ad is that it is likely that only a small proportion of those that reply will interest you (so prepare to spend some time weeding out those who don't!) Some who reply will even have ignored totally what you have said you want (it seems that a large number of guys do not understand the phrase "No Single Men"…). It does also mean that you will be putting your personal information and intentions in a public domain. Placing your Ad here on Altsex4fun.com is free as well as contacting other sexy singles and couples. You can join for free now