Open reliationships with rules

[TheDuke]

Certainly, In my view, there should be conversations, decisions, and rules set up before anyone is bought into a relationship. Each person must know what is expected and required, then.....hopefully, there will be no questions, surprises, or hurt feelings, later.

Each couple will probably have different ideas and requirements....... and, if anyone has any strong taboos, everyone must be informed, so they can agree to proceed, or not. What may be a serious issue for one, might be of no concern for someone else, but still there should to be a consensus before beginning.

I've had two long term poly relationships...each of them had different rules agreed upon, beforehand. I've attempted others that did not work out, but those two worked, because the foundation was laid before we began

With careful consideration to develop a happy, fulfilling relationship, there will be rewards for all involved.

[madra]

When my ex-bf and I were in the lifestyle together, we had a couple of rules. The most important one was: Always introduce the person we'd be playing with to each other. The rule was that we didnt play with anyone unless they Were introduced first. For instance: if we were at a party and I was going to be playing with a long time lover, I'd tell Jeff, "Hey, I'm going to go romp for a couple of hours with so and so"

2. if it was someone new, I would always take that person, male or female, and make sure he knew who it was. That was my way of safety And respect.

The third one was let each other know where we'd be in case there was some kind of emergency and I/he needed to be gotten ahold of in a hurry.

4. Absolutely no sex without protection. No glovin, no lovin' was and Is always my motto. If a person cant agree to that, then they can stay horny, cuz it aint happenin'. lol

5th and most important one: Be honest with each other at all times. I didnt mind him playing, but No sneaking around. And it was the same for me. If he was on the road and I was going to play, I always told him before I did it.

6. To keep an open honest communication going at All times. If I were going to play with someone and he wasnt comfortable with it, I expected him to Tell me and discuss it with me. And I in turn would do the same. I only complained once, but that was becuz the girl in question never played safe with any of her partners. I didnt want him bringing something unwated home to Me.

I always adhered to these rules and it worked well for us....until he broke the agreements. After that the trust factor was gone, and the relationship fell to the wayside.
Stick to your guns, and always stick to your set rules, Guys and Gals.