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The age old dilemma of the threesome, will it add something to a relationship or obliterate it? The general reaction, especially among men is go for it! Women are is into as men are, we just don't say it quite so loudly or often. Just because someone may fantasize about it doesn't necessarily mean it's a good thing, there are many things you have to examine before jumping in and deciding whether a threesome is right for your relationship or not.
The first thing to question is the strength of your relationship. Sharing a partner, whether they be a spouse or steady date, in an intimate manner with another person requires a wealth of trust. If you have any doubts in your mind that your partner is going to start cutting you out of the menage, and potentially relationship, then it is not for you. If you're the jealous type that worries your partner may pay too much attention to the third member, again, a threesome is not going to spice things up. You're going to be so focused on that and paranoid you'll begin manufacturing issues where none may exist.
A second point to examine is are you doing this for you, your partner, or it is an equal desire you share? Are you considering a threesome because you both believe it will strengthen your relationship, or is it because you're trying to salvage a failing relationship? It is a big difference even if the line between the two is fine at times. In regards to who the threesome is for, if you are pushing for it purely for your own self gratification it will likely damage your relationship, remember that a partnership is about two people, not one. If you are doing it for your partner, be sure you really want to do it or else you may wind up resenting them for it. If you're uncomfortable the experience isn't going to be good for anyone involved. if however you both feel it is the right thing and are doing it for each other then it is most likely it will add plenty of spark to your relationship.
With that said, the process of deciding if a threesome will spark or douse your relationship is just beginning. What are the ground rules? Yes there often are rules to setting up the threesome. Who will be third member? Will it be someone you know or are you looking for a stranger? Each has pros and cons. There may be more comfort with a known person, but you have to remember this is someone you are going to see again. What will the relationship with them be like afterwards? That does effect the status of your relationship as a couple