seeking practical advice for having sex with a women

[divis]

I have recently come out as bisexual - I managed to ignore it for a crazily long time, thinking my attraction to girls was teenage stuff or convenient ruses for a commitment phobic, but in the last year something happened and some very lovely girls just started hitting on me - taking me completely by surprise but i couldn't (and won't!!)ignore the chemistry I discovered there! Then recently a friend who had thought of herself as straight told me that she is very attracted to me and would like to be with me, and we spent a(drunken) and wonderful night kissing like we could never stop. Then she wanted to take things further and asked me what I wanted her to do, and I had no idea! I am generally not very sexually experienced, but it seems with guys its more straightforward...or the girl *can* be more passive...now I have a maybe a stupid but vital question: how do women have sex? I would really like to be a good and generous and passionate lover... if anyone has any practical advice/links/etc. it would be much appreciated!!

[MitsyC]

Ahhhh Babygirl. There are So many ways for making love to/with a woman, delightful and different from making love with a man. Its sometimes softer and gentler, sometimes not. Women love to take their time and make sure the desire is warmed up properly, and alot of foreplay is Wonderful. There's tons of kissing, touching, arousing, tantalizing. That slow delicious build-up that arouses the mind and tingles the sense. There's toys and tongues, and lips aplenty, fingers probing and exciting, and lots of exploding if all is right.
I recommend it whole heartedly!
Cat, who now hasta have a cold shower...LOL

[divis]

thank you everyone for your lovely and helpful responses...
this really is an amazing forum that you can ask things like this openly.
I have a couple of lesbian friends I could have spoken to but I felt somehow awkward about it...like it is taken for granted that you just know what to do.

This being bi thing is quite a trip! The other night I went to a queer party with a mixed crowd and I saw men and women I was attracted to and there were all these signals flying around and it was quite overwhelming!(and wonderful) don't know how I managed to block out all these possibilities for so long...

at the same time now I realise how skewed EVERYTHING is towards heterosexuality(heteronormative) every magazine tv program etc. so in any cosmo you can get tips for how to give the perfect blowjob but not, say, 10 tips for how to have crazily good sex with a women if you are a recently discovered bisexual girl...and then not even to mention the focus on homosexuality rather than multiple sexualities as has been commented on often on this site...

no wonder i couldn't recognise myself there are no "mirrors" anywhere!

anyway I see what you are all saying that this when it happens will be a sweet imperfect exploration with no "right way"...I guess I'll have to be vulnerable or something.

If there is any more advice/links to sites that ARE aimed at us with "10 tip" type sections, all would be welcome.