01-24-2009, 01:53 AM
I suppose I just would like to see how most people feel about this type of situation...
My lady friend and I were out in a bar where some people knew us, but none very well. We have a fairly casual relationship - not exactly exclusive, but we do spend a lot of time together. A man we both knew, I more than her, pulled her aside and suggested that his lady friend, who was too shy to ask, would be interested in exploring a slightly bi-curious relationship with her. The subject had never been brought up by any of us before. He never approached me about it, but my friend told me.
It was my feeling that, in situations similar to this, the subject should have been brought up either to both of us at the same time, or man to man, or woman to woman. My lady friend totally disagreed and thought that I should trust her to tell me of things like that and that she would if the situation was reversed (i.e. a woman approached me ) There wasn't really any major argument over this, we do each occasionally date others, but I still feel like even in these times the approach I suggested would have been much more friendly and comfortable for everyone concerned. Agree or disagree?
My lady friend and I were out in a bar where some people knew us, but none very well. We have a fairly casual relationship - not exactly exclusive, but we do spend a lot of time together. A man we both knew, I more than her, pulled her aside and suggested that his lady friend, who was too shy to ask, would be interested in exploring a slightly bi-curious relationship with her. The subject had never been brought up by any of us before. He never approached me about it, but my friend told me.
It was my feeling that, in situations similar to this, the subject should have been brought up either to both of us at the same time, or man to man, or woman to woman. My lady friend totally disagreed and thought that I should trust her to tell me of things like that and that she would if the situation was reversed (i.e. a woman approached me ) There wasn't really any major argument over this, we do each occasionally date others, but I still feel like even in these times the approach I suggested would have been much more friendly and comfortable for everyone concerned. Agree or disagree?