01-29-2009, 02:29 PM
Okay, this is a question I've had pretty much since the first time I had sex. Not to be getting tmi, but I enjoy some bdsm behavior in the bedroom. I'm not talking all out, tie me up and beat me (although I might be willing to give it a shot), just some rough sex. How do I bring this up with a guy? I always feel like if I tell a guy I want something different he'll think it means he's not good in bed and he'll get upset. The one time I did bring it up the guy totally freaked and wouldn't talk to me again.
I just want to know what the best way to bring this up would be, and when. I mean, should I talk about it before we ever have sex, or wait until after the first time when he inevitable asks "Was it good for you?" What do you all think? Any suggestions would be welcome.
I just want to know what the best way to bring this up would be, and when. I mean, should I talk about it before we ever have sex, or wait until after the first time when he inevitable asks "Was it good for you?" What do you all think? Any suggestions would be welcome.